With love,

Ryan

I was recently quoted in the Denver Post for an article about the problems food can have on relationships. Check it out here: http://www.denverpost.com/food/ci_16066273

Sending love to you all,

Ryan

I have spent the past several months writing a comprehensive book on attraction for men and women. It is ground breaking. It will teach men and women how to meet, attract, and date the person they want as well as how to make relatinoships last and handle breaks ups when they don’t.

This is the book I’ve always wanted to write and I have left nothing out of it. On top of attraction it will give you skills to make more friends, get the career of your dreams, and most importantly, live a happy and exciting life!

Stay tuned, it will be out within the next month…

Best,

Ryan

I got sick and tired of being alone, so I made it my personal mission to learn how to attract women.  In two years, I approached and talked with over women on a regular basis in cafes, bookstores, bars, parties, and all around my college campus.  I read dozens of books on human psychology and attractive behavior.  The results were extraordinary.  I learned what works, and what does not. Certain behaviors were always attractive and others always came off as creepy.  As I refined and applied what I learned, the change in my life was dramatic.  I began by teaching my friends and today I work with men and women around the world, teaching them how to meet, attract, and date the person they want and desire.

Attraction is a skill, and skills can be learned.  Most people don’t think of attraction that way.  I often hear “You have to be good looking/rich/etc.” and either you are and people like you or you’re not and they don’t.  After working with thousands of men and women, I’ve learned that while these things play a role, they are not a major factor.  There are much more important factors when it comes to the art of attraction and that is what I teach.

Where to begin?  I teach 11 Attractive Behaviors that will enable you to attract the person you want.  Here are three of those behaviors you can start working on right now to be more attractive.

1. Be Mentally Attractive.

Would you date yourself?  It’s an honest question.  Do you have an answer?  A college sophomore came to me for advice on how to attract a guy in her chemistry class. She told me that although she liked this guy she disliked school and found her classes boring.  She had stopped working out and worst of all, had stopped writing short stories which was her real passion. With her current mindset, if she had asked herself out, she would have probably said no. You cannot expect someone to be attracted to you if you are not attracted to yourself.  To be attractive to others, she needed to turn her own self-attraction from a “no” into an emphatic “yes!”

The power of being mentally attractive plays out in the adage “women like jerks, and hate nice guys.”

Women DO NOT like jerks, and they DO NOT hate nice guys.  Women like confident men. A “jerk” often embodies confidence and that is the part of him that women find attractive.  Conversely “nice guys” are often perceived as weak-minded, insecure, and needy.  Uncertain of himself, the nice guy over-compensates to make up for his shortcomings.  You can be confident AND sincerely nice.  They do not have to be mutually exclusive. When you, as a man or a woman, have both of these qualities – you are super-attractive.

2. Do What You Love.

There is nothing more attractive than talking to someone who is truly passionate about what they do.  It doesn’t matter what your profession or passion is, if you love what you do, people will want to be near you.  Say someone you meet works in a paper clip factory.  That might seem rather ordinary at first, but if you ask them what they do and they say “I work in this amazing place, a huge paperclip factory.  We put on some loud music and dance and sing as we crank out paperclips.  The conveyor belts run at full speed and we make necklaces, bracelets, and fire these things at each other all day.  It’s really fun, and I love it.” Doesn’t seem mundane any more, does it?

The passion, energy and attitude they exuded was attractive to you. Heck, you may even ask for a job application!  One thing is certain, when you spend your day and time doing what inspires you and you express your feelings passionately the excitement you generate is infectious – and that is very attractive.

3. Ask Emotional Questions

What’s your name? Where are you from?  What’s your major?  What dorm do you live in?  This is an average conversation on college campuses and it’s unattractive and boring. You’ve probably had hundreds of these dreadful conversations simply because you didn’t know what else to do and had no model to follow.

The secret to having an attractive conversation is something I call Emotional Questions.  The next time you are involved in a potentially boring conversation, look the other person in the eye and inquire, “What do you really love to do?”  Say they respond: Skydiving!  Instead of asking another closed-ended, factual question such as “Where have you gone skydiving, when did you go, how far did you fall, etc.?” ask an emotional question; “What does it feel like to skydive?” or “How do you feel when you skydive?” The person might say it feels “Exiting…freeing!” and like they are in “Another world.”  As they share these positive feelings they will automatically start to feel them again and they will attach those feelings to you, as you are the one eliciting them.

Once they have shared their feelings, relate to them by connecting to something you love that makes you feel the same way.  So you might say, “Wow, it’s really great that you feel that way.  I love to sail.  When I’m on the ocean with a strong wind in my face, I get that same feeling of freedom and excitement.”

Ask someone what they love to do, how they feel when they do it, and then relate to their emotions by sharing with them something you love to do that gives you the same feeling. This type of conversation will instantly make you more attractive.  Try it today and see for yourself —it works!

Be Mentally Attractive

Do What You Love

Ask Emotional Questions

If you take action on just these three simple suggestions, the people you date will be different, the time you spend with them will be more passionate, the person you marry will be exciting to you, your job will be more satisfying, you’ll feel closer to your family, and life, for you, will be more meaningful.  I encourage you to start to practice these three behaviors everyday and attract the person and the life that you truly want.